Wenn ich es meinem Kind nicht sage?

I think that will change on a daily basis - one day you are completely in favor of sex education and the next you can see the negative effects it has on the child.

Nobody wants their child to be burdened - neither in their environment nor in their own background.

I actually think that this problem affects almost all parents who have taken on a difficult journey and live in countries like Germany where this is simply a taboo and even illegal.

We are not going to change anything about this, but unfortunately, raising awareness can also be associated with a lot of negative experiences - just like hiding it.

Hello NWS80 !

Our little one is 5 weeks old today🥰.

I would also be very happy about an exchange - if 80 is your year of birth, we are the same alt☺️...

Currently only our best friend and a close friend know about the EZS and that's how it should stay for now.

I would like our child to be educated as naturally as possible... but I'm still putting off the when and how...

We deal with our daughter very intuitively, and that's how I want to do it with sex education too...

How are you currently doing with your little one and in which country did you go to donate?

LG

Our route is also quite long and we ended up in Prague. Spain was also our first choice, but we didn't like the clinic we looked at!

Everything worked out very quickly in Prague (1st attempt) and the pregnancy itself was fantastic. However, after experiencing miscarriages, I still had a lot of fears ...

Now she is 5 weeks old and a really chilled baby💓... I am breastfeeding her fully and of course the nights are different, but still completely unproblematic 😇!!!!

She looks like my husband as a baby ... I personally think that's great ... there's virtually nothing that feels foreign ... and I think she's just wonderful and perfect ... she's absolutely loved by both of us ... and yet I often look at her and think about the donor ... not stressful ... I think I'm still processing it ... the whole thing wasn't really tangible for me during pregnancy, but now that she's here, it's working inside me ... but not stressful at all and so it feels rather healthy ☺️!

For example, I would really like to be back in Prague on the transfer date...I really liked it there and we had a really nice time there💓.

What is currently annoying me a bit are the things around the household ... I was always very organized and structured ... that is currently not possible 😅!!!!

All the people around us are so happy with us ... but find the late SS a bit strange 🤣

Best wishes 💓

NWS80

Good morning!

For me it also feels just right to have become a mom now ... however, I find my/our age already difficult with regard to a possible sibling !!!!

Are you planning a sibling?

I don't know if it's ok for you, but I would be very interested in your theoretical thoughts on the clarification, as I don't really have any ideas yet 😬!

Have a nice WE 🌞

Good morning 🌞

There is the possibility that we write private messages to each other ...

NWS80... see if you can see / find it - I wrote to you via PN !!!

Hello everyone,

I wanted to "take up the cudgels" again on the subject of open contact. We have made it clear to ourselves that we never want to make a secret of it. Our daughter is only 15 months old, so I can't say anything about the future yet. We've told close family, close friends...and more and more friends - when the subject comes up and it's a trustworthy conversation.

We already have a picture book on the subject and have already read it to our daughter on the changing table and stuck personal photos to it.

Our fertility doctor has encouraged us to deal with the topic openly and to be courageous - also for all those who come along. She is campaigning for legalization in Germany. That would have made so many things easier.

The current psychological study situation also recommends providing information right from the start - to avoid any breach of trust.

It's like slowly growing into it...that's my experience.

By the way, I don't want to patronize anyone - because I understand all the reasons in every direction - but simply to encourage.

Best regards!

We do the same as Sala. My daughter is already four and always likes to be read the book "About Her" by Petra Thorn. Once she said in the game: "Here mommy, I'll give you a little heart, we'll put it in your belly and then a baby will grow out of it!" (the donated egg is depicted as a small heart in the book).

Being open with friends, even those who aren't quite so close, makes the many conversations à la "And when will you have a baby brother or sister?" easier or unnecessary for me. Well, sometimes I just say "fertility treatment", but if the other person shows genuine interest, I have no problem mentioning egg donation.

For me, this openness is the right thing to do. Of course, everyone can decide for themselves. But I don't think the child is at a disadvantage because of this openness. I only tell people who I consider trustworthy enough not to "spread the word".

We are doing the same as Nini and Sala. In the beginning, only our family and closest friends knew. But when we talked to friends who are also trustworthy, we also told them. It's just important to me that we have it in our hands and that no one tells anyone else without our consent, which is why there are also people in our circle of friends who we only tell that it was fertility treatment. I want to see it as something normal, as one of many ways to have a child, and I want our daughter to be able to see it that way when she is older. We are going to buy a children's book.

Dear @Nini,

that's a beautiful story, what your daughter said. Thank you for sharing it. I find it very touching and it gives me courage. We have the same picture book, it's really beautifully painted.

We also want to make an appointment with Petra Thorn - have you had any experience there? Best regards

Sala No, I didn't have an appointment with Petra Thorn, I only know the book.

Hello everyone,

The appointment with Tanja (she is an EZS coach and has 3 children from EZS herself, who are already a bit older, https://romanocoaching.com/) helped me a lot to feel generally comfortable and confident about the decision to have EZS, as I was very concerned about the subject of sex education and what it would be like for the child. Now I can be more relaxed when the time comes. (We are still at the beginning of the EZS journey).

LG

Hello everyone,

I am currently in the 8th week of pregnancy, but it is important to my husband and I to deal openly with the subject of EZS. We have consciously communicated openly that we are going down this path and that it would not be possible to have a child any other way due to the lack of ovaries.

Of course, when the children reach puberty, things may be said that hurt at that moment, but a child can no longer be wanted, as is the case with us KiWu girls. The things we take on in order to conceive this little miracle are sometimes really quite something...

I also think it's important to "de-taboo" the topic of ECS, as ECS is necessary for so many people in order to start a family and perhaps this will also create a certain acceptance for it...

We have already chosen/ bought some children's books on this subject and as I said, family, friends and acquaintances are informed...

I also know that this path is not an option for everyone, which is absolutely ok, but for us it feels just right and I'm honest I didn't think at first that we would get positive encouragement from so many sides (but luckily it was just like that)!

LG to all