Do I need eggdonation?

    I hope this is ok to write in English. My German is not fluent enough. I've been trying to get pregnant for 2 years now and I suspect my age to be my biggest problem (I'll turn 40 in 2 weeks). But I don't know really and my obgyn doesn't want to hear the word egg donation, or about advances tests. That's why I'm considering to go to Spain. I'm not 100% against the idea of an egg donor but only if strictly necessary. How can I know what to do? Financially, I can't do an IVF cycle "just in case" and then do an Egg Donation one... This is so much pressure and I would appreciate to know your professional opinion. Thanks

    Born and raised in France (1984) - French mother, Scottish father, moved to Germany (Frankfurt) fro work in 2021. Met my partner in 2022 and trying to conceive ever since.

    No treatment yet. Feel super alone here is no solution. We are considering going abroad.

    Have you been to a fertility clinic instead of a normal gyn for advice?

    I would suggest to look for that one first and ask for a consultation. Maybe they can discuss chances with you before you go to spain.

    Where do you live?

    Hi Fliege,

    I live in Frankfurt. Yes, sorry I said ObGyn but he is a Fertility gyn from a fertility clinic. Since I moved to Germany I had no normal ObGyn and since my concern was to be able to conceive I directly went to a fertility clinic. This was a terrible consultation, almost laughed at me and I cried for 2 days after that. Maybe this was just bad luck and I should try another one but my partner was super angry and as he has family living in Spain he wants to go straight there.

    Born and raised in France (1984) - French mother, Scottish father, moved to Germany (Frankfurt) fro work in 2021. Met my partner in 2022 and trying to conceive ever since.

    No treatment yet. Feel super alone here is no solution. We are considering going abroad.

    I would definetly try a second fertility clinic at Frankfurt and ask for advice. No patient should cry after a consultation! You still have time to discuss egg donation after this second appointment.

    I wish u all the and I am sorry that u had such a Bad experience. Oskar

    Yeah, I can only confirm what Oskar says. I would seek a second opinion. I went to two fertility clinics (Düsseldoef & Cologne) in Germany before going to Prague and both were really understanding and supportive.

    But I guess that is a bit far for you.

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