Let's go, part 2?!

Dear Jam76,

Congratulations and have a great time getting to know each other!❤️🥰

Have a good rest for you two!

Best regards

Tascha0205

Dear Jam76

Congratulations from me too!

To everyone else: have a nice and relaxed time until the ET

Dear Jam, congratulations on the birth! Another ferticare miracle ♡

I hope you can now enjoy the time quickly and let the events of the first few days fade into the background.

Dear@Jam76,

Congratulations! You've come through something. Reminds me of my own story. Wishing you well now as you grow, thrive, heal, recover & bond.

All the best to you!!!

Jam76 Congratulations from me too

Hello everyone,

First of all, congratulations to all new moms and all the best to all pregnant women!

We will soon be continuing with our sibling trial. After I rejected a donor suggestion from Aarhus in October because I was worried that the child might look too different from the rest of the family if the donor had half Danish and half Creole roots, we received a new suggestion in December. The phenotype fits better, we accepted, but unfortunately the donor is not ready for the next donation until March. So we still have to be a little patient. But that's actually quite good, as my probationary period in my new job runs until the end of March and I'm still in the middle of my induction.

But I'm starting to get antsy again to see if it will work out this time. I hope so much! Do you have any tips on what else I could do or take to prepare? I'm already taking the usual fertility vitamins (folic acid, iodine, vitamin D etc.). Is there anything else that specifically "cares for" the uterine lining or increases the chances of implantation?

Coco_F and Jam76 Congratulations on your two miracles! How are you doing in your new everyday life?

I'm sorry that I'm only getting back to you now, I was and still am full on in the baby bubble. Our little treasure came to us 10 days after ET shortly before Christmas, ultimately by induction of labor because we couldn't imagine another induction after much deliberation. It went very well, we were already at home after 2 days and were now slowly settling into our new life as a foursome. The little one is loved dearly and enriches us very much. We haven't disclosed the EZS to anyone yet (we will of course do this with our son) and it was already a little noticeable that several relatives said that he didn't look like us at all. On the other hand, if you look at pictures from the same period, he resembles his big brother, who doesn't look much like us either, even though he is genetically ours.

Nice to hear from you, Suleyka! Congratulations on your little son and glad everything went well! Well, that's how it is with similarities, everyone sees something different, genes or not... The main thing is that the little one is loved and belongs to the family!

Hello lovelies,

I haven't been here for a long time, somehow I'm in the same baby bubble as Suleyka. First of all, congratulations to you. And dear Jam76 I hadn't even congratulated you yet. Congratulations to you too. I hope you are doing well by now.

I would like to tell you a bit about all the events that happened after the birth. I already wrote that the birth was good. Hypnobirthing really helped me a lot. It was my third and also the best birth I've had, and this time I didn't tear or anything. Even though I didn't really know how best to position myself during the birth. During the contractions I always wanted to be more upright so that the cervix would stretch and open up nicely and during the breaks in labor I wanted to lie down so that I could relax. Well, my waters broke at 12:15 and she was here shortly before 3pm. I put her on straight away and then I "gave birth" to the placenta. From then on, unfortunately, I started to lose quite a lot of blood. The delivery room suddenly became more and more crowded and my husband was supposed to come out with the little one and I noticed how the blood was oozing out of me and just wouldn't stop even though she had contracted the uterus. Well, I was given a general anesthetic and when I woke up my first question was what day it was and the second was whether I still had my uterus. I was only out for an hour and I still have my uterus. There were probably clots in the uterus, so it couldn't contract properly and I probably lost 1.5 liters of blood. So I was pretty weak the following days and noticed the iron deficiency for quite a long time afterwards. In hindsight, I'm now convinced that it was the stupid (unnecessary) induction that caused the clots and therefore the bleeding. Now that the little one is here, it was also clear that the senior doctor had made a mistake. But yes, what do you do when they scare you right before the birth... Of course I prefer to play it safe. The first night really sucked. I was in hospital without my husband and quite weak, I wasn't allowed to get up either, but of course I had my baby with me. I couldn't put her down very well and of course I couldn't sleep because I had her in bed with me and was constantly afraid that she would fall out if I fell asleep and I couldn't put her down because this crib was next to mine but I just couldn't put her in there. So there was no rest for me and as she had clustered a lot, I also had bloody nipples on the second day. Well, although there are breastfeeding consultants and midwives etc. on the maternity ward, it got worse and worse and in the end I could only breastfeed her with the help of painkillers. I just wanted to go home. I was allowed to after 4 days. Unfortunately, my midwife wasn't helpful when it came to breastfeeding either. A friend then recommended a lactation consultant to me and she is really very good. Unfortunately, I had a breast infection by the time I got an appointment with her. The antibiotics at the gynaecologist didn't work properly and I felt really bad. My circulation was broken, I had a fever and chills. The lactation consultant sent me straight to hospital and also recognized that the frenulum was too short. I had to wait there for over 6 hours (with a newborn baby and a breast that was now also sore from the mastitis) until I was admitted. My inflammation levels were off the charts. So I was back in that hospital. But with intravenous antibiotic therapy, the mastitis quickly got better and after a few days I was allowed to leave the hospital again. Things have been looking up since then. The lingual frenulum was cut and breastfeeding is going better and better. Although it still hurts, it is very bearable and it is wonderful to have this little creature with us. She is so cute and makes such great baby noises.

And I have forgotten so many things. It's been 7 years since my last baby and let me tell you, the first walk with the baby carriage made me feel like the first human being. And changing diapers was also new again. I don't even have to talk about the cloth diapers. We've only had them on again for a few days. Before that I couldn't cope with them at all. Holding them off is only working really well now. The first bath was also more of a struggle but now she loves it and so do I. I think it's a bit like being in amniotic fluid and she really enjoys it. She also loves the cradle and I'm really happy that we bought it. I really thought long and hard about whether it was worth it as it's quite expensive. But it's worth every euro.

Oh dear, I've written far too much. Sorry...

Nini it's not that long until March. I can totally understand that you're getting excited. I felt the same way. I'll keep my fingers crossed that everything goes well.

Lalelu22 how are you? You don't have that long either, do you? Sorry, I've totally lost track, I'll just say baby bladder.

Best wishes to everyone reading this.

Oh how great Lalelu22!!! Congratulations to you! I hope you are doing well and of course I wish you a wonderful time cuddling and getting to know each other! Nice that the "big" sister marvels at the little one.

Congratulations Lalelu22!!! I wish you a wonderful baby time!

Dear Lalelu22,

I am also very happy for you and your family. Have lots of fun with the little "lump" 😊, I wish you a wonderful time getting to know each other!

All the best! Oskar

Dear Suleyka,

I would like to congratulate you on your birth and wish you all a wonderful time getting to know each other! Best regards! Your Oskar

We had some bad news today: The donor we've been waiting for 14 months for and who had been promised to us since December has canceled. I don't know why, but she can't or doesn't want to donate at the moment and doesn't know when she can or wants to donate again. And the clinic doesn't seem to have any other non-anonymous donors available at the moment. I am so disappointed...

I have written to the Aagaard Clinic that we will look for another clinic if they can't find us another donor soon. But I'm afraid that it won't be that quick at another clinic either... There's also the problem with the sperm. My husband takes medication (psychotropic drugs) that severely restrict sperm quality. Last year he stopped taking the medication for four months, with all the psychological side effects that entails, in order to be able to produce better sperm again. They are now frozen at the Aagaard Clinic. I wonder if they can be transported frozen to another clinic?

Oh, I'm so sad and disappointed... And my daughter, who will soon be four, is such a baby fan and stops at every baby carriage and wants to stroke and hug the baby, and of course the baby's parents always say "Well, it's about time for a sibling!". And she plays with her doll, thinking it's her little sister, who explains the world to her and teaches her everything... I would love to give her a little brother or sister...

Dear Nini I'm really sorry about that. I have often read that non-anonymous donors are much rarer than anonymous donors. And yet I can totally understand that non-anonymity is an important point. I'll keep my fingers crossed that there is a solution. In principle, I can imagine that you can have frozen sperm transported to another clinic. You can organize this yourself via a special transport service, and a potential new clinic could certainly advise you on how the process works.

Hello dear Nini,

I can understand so well how disappointing it is! After this eternally long wait.... Give yourself a big hug!

I have heard that things are going relatively quickly at Diers and the new Sellmer Clinic in Aarhus. Perhaps you can find out the approximate waiting time by sending an e-mail request...

In principle, the transportation of sperm should not be a problem.

Best regards!

Thanks for the tips, Ninusch84, the two clinics actually advertise short waiting times and you can even look at the donor database yourself. Let's see how short the waiting time actually is for a non-anonymous donation, but that gives me a bit of hope again. I have already written to the Ovumia clinic in Finland, they have a cryo egg bank.

Hi Nini, the only problem with Ovumia is that you get very little information about the donor.

Lh